Female Ejaculation (8 page)

The single biggest communication foul-up is when one or both partners aren’t completely forthcoming and authentic with each other. In less formal words, this means acting phony. Of course, when you speak, it’s important to be loving and gentle with your words, rather than accusatory or judgmental.

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The truth is that whether you’re female or male, you’re 100% totally responsible for your own arousal and orgasms. Of course, we don’t mean that all good lovin’ is self-lovin’, but great sex is a dance in which it takes two to tango.

There are still too many men who think they’re failures if their women don’t have an orgasm. There are too many women who don’t have a clue what will make them feel the ultimate in sexual pleasure. No matter how much you have to learn about your subtle orgasmic triggers and keys to ecstasy, the more you talk with your partner about what you want, the quicker you’ll both learn what you can do to get it.

As a marriage counselor for many years, Jeffre has learned that the single biggest reason women get turned off to sex (after religion) is their fear of telling their men the truth about their sexual responses, desires, and wants. If you want to deepen and supercharge your sex life, communication must begin at the beginning. That’s where the following practice, How To Touch Me, picks up — at the beginning.

Going deeper with communication throughout your loveplay helps tremendously to create intimacy as well. When receiving, women need to explain what they desire, what they feel, and how they’re reacting. Although this is true of men too, our focus right now is on preparing women for female ejaculation.

Partners in general, and men in particular, do not appreciate being in the dark (figuratively, of course) when they’re trying to please you. They need and want to feel confident that they’re successfully turning you on.

Women are not only different from each other, but they’re different from one moment to the other. This is confusing to the average guy who’s always trying to learn what women want. You’ll be better off if you just accept these observations as fact: