Mastering Multiple Position Sex (11 page)

POSITION 2

POSITION 3

POSITION 3:
Meet and Greet

This position is how you started. You are on top of him, and your chest is against his. Because many women are shorter than men, your position on his lap should bring you both eye-to-eye—or close.

Reach around, and pull him towards you. You can help position his penis back inside you.

Place your knees inside or outside of hers, depending on your heights and comfort levels. This will allow for short, measured strokes.

To change the depth or angle, either partner can lean back or forth, or—assuming the surface has got enough spring to it—bounce to orgasm. I have many clients who attest to the sexual benefits of the human pogo stick. (As a side note: I hear it is a great way to tighten those sagging glutes as well.)

Crescendo

Climaxing in this position requires that you both focus on your own orgasm, while assisting your partner if possible. Instead of elevating your pelvis, you will each need to contract and release the pelvic floor, while rocking back and forth, breathing in and out from the diaphragm, and focusing on all the sensations.

This position is perfect for cupping your partner’s face and engaging in deep kisses, tongue play, or a light lip bite. You can also embrace each other, melding chest to chest, as your bodies pivot back and forth. If fingernails trailing down your back turn you on, this is an optimal position for that, as well as for ear licking and clitoral stimulation. He can grab her buttocks and elevate her, pull her towards and away from him, and even engage in spanking or ass-grabbing, if she so desires.

There is a therapeutic advantage of this position for the rapid ejaculator. If he comes, he can still make small movements that, combined with clitoral stimulation, breast fondling, or even some anal play, can bring her over the edge as well.

Bravo! Bravo!

Whether it’s a simmering sauce or a potential partnership, great things take time to develop and are worth waiting for. Before you make love to your partner’s body, enjoy hours, days, weeks, and months making love to their heart, mind, soul, and spirit. Your patience in the bedroom might result in an invitation to take the relationship to another level, bringing further rewards of exploration, intimacy, and fun.

So, when you next get the urge to race across the sexual finish line in a New York minute, ease up instead and do it in a country mile.

4
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Movement
A Capella: Amazing Oral Sex for You and Your Partner

If you’ve swallowed as many gallons of the stuff as I have, you probably don’t need to hear that orange juice isn’t just a breakfast beverage. Likewise, oral sex can happen whenever and for whatever reason you want—as pre-sex, as sex, or after sex. Hell, with the right diet, it’s even a palate cleanser between courses. Oral sex can provide incredible pleasure and intimacy because the mouth doesn’t just give thrills, it can also be thrilled—just think about kissing. Though sexologists think of oral sex in four ways—cunnilingus (mouth to vulva), penilingus or fellatio (mouth to penis), anilingus (a little “tongue in
cheek
”), and autofellatio (whew, that’s a mouthful!)—I suggest that you follow a new paradigm that includes as many types of oral sex as there are erogenous zones.

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^th
Movement

POSITION 1

POSITION 2

This Chapter’s Positions and Their Degrees of Difficulty:

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POSITION 1: Oral Sex on Her

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POSITION 2: Oral Sex on Him

When you find that you have a question about oral sex, the smart move is to ask your gay, lesbian, and bisexual friends first (assuming they have oral sex). A woman who pleases another woman or a man who pleasures another man might have better insight into the anatomy and physiology of their own biological sex. Combine their advice with input from your partner and the material you are about to read, and you’ve got yourself something that you can sink your teeth into—on second thought, sink your mouth onto.

Oral “Six”

To take oral sex from good to great, it is important to adhere to the following guidelines:

1. Dirty mind but clean body.
You don’t want to put your mouth on somebody and hear yourself asking, “What is that in my mouth? I wonder where it’s been.” The shower or a bathtub is a great precursor to a tasty treat.
   Note: Avoid heavy fragrances during or after washing. Licking under somebody’s arm can be erotic, but not if you taste deodorant. One of the things that attracts us to one another is our natural, clean smell—and taste is linked to smell.

2. See and be seen.
Think of eating someone out as going out to eat. You want to enjoy the view and be where you can be viewed as well. Seeing eye to eye during sex makes it hotter. No matter where your mouth touches your partner, try to make at least one other connection, perhaps with your eyes or hands.

3. Use your mouth—for talking.
Communicate with your partner about what is working and what’s not. Say things like, “A little slower” or “That’s it. Yeah. Just like that.”

4. Start with the end in mind—and keep it in mind.
Just because you are thinking “vulva” or “penis” or “tight, little anal rosebud” does not mean that you skip everything else. Take the scenic route; explore every possible path on the way to your end goal, and just when you are ready to put your honey where your mouth is, go back and explore your partner’s body some more.

5. Add some vibrato.
Yes, that’s both a rule and a typo. Let your pleasure resonate within your partner. I like to recommend an oral game called “Chin and Tonic.” During oral sex—on any part of the body—you can hum, not blow, your way through several notes to see which tone, pitch, and volume creates the greatest pleasure for your partner. Sometimes a single word can work wonders on a mouth, nipple, vulva, or cock. Don’t believe me? It’s part of the reason I like Hawaii so much—and I’ve never been. This tip also means that if you need assistance, bring along a toy or two. (You’ll learn more about toys in the
6th Movement
.)

6. Review BEST SEX (see
p. 21
)
. The principles apply as much to oral sex as they do to ano-genital. Remember that B—for breathe—is essential for both of you. I know people are dying
for
oral sex but, please, not
from
it. Breathe people! Breathe!