Mastering Multiple Position Sex (14 page)

When you’re ready, let his penis slide into your mouth. Move your head only as far down as you feel comfortable. Try to produce as much spit as you can and let it dribble down his cock as your non-dominant hand strokes his cock. This will give your dominant hand a break.

Moan into his cock. If you can do so without gagging, talk dirty with his cock in your mouth or remove your mouth just long enough to talk to him. Some guys like to hear loud slurps and others like any sound that suggests pleasure and excitement.

A note to the gents: Please be careful about where you place your hands. Resting on her head is one thing, pulling on her head like a slot machine handle is another. Imagine you’ve ordered soup in a fancy restaurant and just as you place the spoon in your mouth, the waiter grabs your head and starts thrusting you back and forth on the spoon. Not a pleasant meal anymore, is it? So play with her hair, stroke her face, and let her put your hands where she wants them to go.

Ladies, if you are getting tired or you are pressed for time, you have several choices. He can finish on his own, you can switch to vaginal or anal sex, or there are ways you can help him expedite the orgasm. The first way is to insert a finger into his rectum: The light pressure on his prostate (his “P Spot”) might cause some men to blow like never before. The second way tricks his body into thinking that he is coming. Right before a man ejaculates, his testicles rise toward his body. So if you want him to come, gently raise his testicles with your palm, and his body will think that it is time to come. Just like ringing the bell for Pavlov’s dogs.

Crawl in his lap and, if he is man enough, he’ll kiss you.

Brava! Bravo!

Oral sex is an equal-opportunity treat that can be a quickie or a long, slow road to an awesome orgasm. When you focus on and follow your partner’s wishes, oral sex in all its forms can be a rousing, intimate, and highly erotic activity that can serve as the beginning, middle, or ending position for any of the combinations in this book. Part of
Mastering Multiple Position Sex
stems from making every transition exciting. If you see that your mouth is anywhere near your partner during a sexual switch, maybe it’s time to put your lips together and give that body part a “kiss for good fuck.”

So if you want to satisfy your partner—and be satisfied in return—give oral sex a little whistle.

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Being Concert Master: Positions to Help Your Male Partner Please You

Though men most often come to me seeking help with various erection and ejaculation concerns, my female clients tend to present with questions about their orgasms; they want stronger orgasms or more orgasms, or—as I instruct them—more
and
stronger orgasms. With no disrespect to my male readers, I’d like to provide couples with the following two positions that will surely benefit both partners, but will tend to emphasize the woman’s satisfaction.

If you’ve paged through sexual position books of the past, you were more likely to nod off than get off. More technical than titillating, they overflow with discussions of medical models, anatomy, and physiology. Unless you are trying to earn a medical degree, go by what you feel, and by what feels great, regardless of what it’s called in Latin or Greek.

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POSITION 1

POSITION 2

CRESCENDO

This Chapter’s Positions and Their Degrees of Difficulty:

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POSITION 1
: Easy Landing

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POSITION 2
: Transition

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POSITION 3
: Touching the Wall

“Start by having an affair with yourself. Great partner sex will follow.”

And, despite the messages broadcast by romantic movies and novels that partners are meant to complete each other, the only person you should or can complete is yourself.

Make it a priority to learn how your body works. Revisit “Getting Started” on
page 14
to learn about sexual growth through self-exploration. Take time to explore your inner self, through counseling, coaching, or spiritual enlightenment; gain an additional connection to this world beyond the physical one. Remember to laugh at yourself and at life. I think the Bard got it partially wrong: Yes, the world is a stage, but we are all
stand-up comedians
. Finally, open yourself up to the world and, if you have one, to your partner. Share your life with others—through volunteering, caring for another person, and talking with your partner about what you need more of and less of. Great sex is about getting in touch, and staying in touch, with the moment. Follow these guidelines and they’ll lead you to the sensual, sexual moment in everything.

Setting the Stage

These two positions have higher difficulty ratings because they require the man to demonstrate a good deal of sexual vigor and stamina. So if you or your partner needs another reason to stay in shape, give these positions a whirl and discover how core strength, flexibility, and cardiovascular endurance are the foundation of sexual dynamism—and dynamite sex.

Warm-Up

For this preflight warm-up, he can give her the best pre-takeoff oral sex, maybe even helping her come before he enters her. Both partners stand naked at the edge of the bed—either the side or front end—with a pillow on it, just far enough up on the bed that she could reach it if she laid her head back while her knees hang from the side. In order to make a love connection, their eyes should remain open and locked on each other. He can run his fingers through her hair, push it away from her face, and then caress her forehead, eyes, nose, lips, and chin. Cradling her face in his hands, he can lean toward her and slowly part her lips with his tongue, all while keeping his eyes gazing at hers.

He should let his hands trace down her body, as his mouth follows in pursuit. Finally, when he comes to rest on his knees, she can sit on the edge of the bed. She should pull her legs up and toward her chest and then rest the soles of her feet on each of his shoulders as he continues to kneel. This bracing—along with her abdominals and butt muscles—will give her the leverage she needs to move her hips closer or farther from his mouth.

From his kneeling position and with his head between her legs, he can tongue the inside of her legs, her feet, rectum, her clitoris, her outer and inner lips, and he can go as deep into her pussy as his tongue can reach. Because her feet are on his shoulders, his hands are free to touch her legs, pussy, ass, breasts, and tongue.

She has two hands free to play with her own breasts and clit; she can also open her pussy wider, to invite him to explore and to engage his tongue in some vaginal smorgasbord. The purpose of this man-on-woman oral sex is to get her mind, body, heart, and soul lubed for more great sex. And folks, this tongue lashing is just the beginning.

POSITION 1:
Easy Landing

With his legs off her—and off the bed—he becomes the executive jet that makes a soft landing onto a lovely runway.

Stay just as you are—most likely panting from the previous twenty or thirty minutes.

Approach her as though you were going to do standing missionary, and just after you enter her, place your palms by her shoulders or rib cage, as if you were going to do a push-up.

Walk your feet back, so that you are still inside her and at a 45-degree angle to the bed. The goal is to last as long as you can in this position, before she wants to change.