Female Ejaculation (21 page)

Variations on this theme include the woman with her head and belly on a pile of pillows and her bottom up for the same kind of rear entry. Then, she doesn’t need to support herself on her hands and knees. She can also lie flat on her front, but this can make it difficult for the giver to reach the G-spot.

The four basic strokes of G-spot massage are:

All of these strokes can be done with one or more fingers. Because most women like the vagina to be penetrated gradually, it’s often good to enter first with a smaller finger, such as the third or fourth finger. When she’s opened up and wants deeper penetration, switch to the first or second finger.

Two fingers at a time are popular with many experienced women. Some prefer three, four, or even a whole fist. Be sure to ask first, though, if she wants more than one finger. For some women, too many fingers can be uncomfortable. When using two fingers, try both the first-second
and second-third combinations to see what she prefers and what is most comfortable for the giver. In the proper position, a thumb works well at times, too.

After practicing each stroke later in this section with one and two fingers, you’ll learn to vary these basic strokes by adjusting pressure and speed. Then, we’ll show you how to interrupt your rhythm by tapping, vibrating, milking, and withdrawing to create different patterns with the arousing element of surprise.

Here is a description of the four basic strokes. As you’re reading, practice with one and two fingers on your other hand, simulating the entrance to a vagina. Hold the other hand palm-down and make a circle by touching the tips of your thumb and first finger together.

By going through these motions while reading about the strokes, you’ll create neuronal pathways in your body to make the movements stay with you and become more instinctual.

The in-and-out stroke is where you’ll start your G-spot massage exploration. In-and-out is simply inserting and withdrawing one or more straight fingers into a wet or well-lubricated vagina. It probably needs little introduction, most resembling the familiar and sought-after repeated motion of a penis.

Remember to always make sure the receiver is warmed up and that you have asked permission and adequately lubricated your finger. At first, tease the inner lips, possibly rotating around the clock, with just one soft fingertip. Experiment with your first, second, and third fingers.

Once the vagina is completely wet and sucking your finger inside from your lengthy and elaborate introductory loveplay, slowly insert one finger joint, and withdraw it gently. Without a thought of rushing toward any destination, go deeper at a snail’s pace until two joints of the finger are inside. Linger for the longest time, and then, continue as deep as you can reach.

Try slowly rotating your finger left and right as far as your arm’s flexibility allows. With your palm up, feel all along the vagina’s front wall with your finger. Can you feel the G-spot cresting? Run your finger along its middle, sides, and gutters. Can you feel the corduroy? Focus your strokes where it’s most rough.

After a long, slow sojourn of one-finger in-and-out, you can insert a second one, replaying the same deepening progression. Try spreading two fingers apart so they slide along each side or gutter of the arched crest of the G-spot.

If the receiver can accommodate more and desires it (be sure to ask), continue with three and four fingers, and even perhaps your entire fist. Fisting a hot juicy vagina is an experience you’ll never forget.

While you were reading, did you try in-and-out gently with your other hand? Later, we’ll experiment with stronger pressures, faster speeds, and different cycles for some astonishing effects.

Holding means simply keeping your hand and fingers still while contacting the G-spot area. You can hold inside the vagina with one finger, two, or more, if space allows.

Holding can be done by pressing with your fingertips, finger pads, or the entire length of your fingers. You can also hold by curving your fingers behind the pubic bone, just like the come-hither stroke, except that you remain still against the front wall of the vagina.

Because it’s the gentlest maneuver, holding is a wonderful way to help a woman relax and open to the intense flow of orgasmic energy. This is vital early in a G-spot massage experience. If your partner is tense, nervous, or uncertain, be sure to hold for 10 to 30 seconds each time you enter deeper with initial in-and-out strokes. Wait for signs of relaxation or arousal before moving on.