Female Ejaculation (25 page)

Givers may begin to feel like more of an artist with their beloved partner as the canvas. We encourage you to branch out into multiple variations in terms of speed and pressure, as well as stopping, vibrating, tapping, milking, and withdrawing.

We sincerely want you to sense the never-ending variety of G-spot play. As you integrate the attitudes of “pleasure in the moment” and “self-love as a reflection of the divine,” we guarantee you’ll never have a boring moment of sex play, ever again — whether you achieve ejaculation every time or not.

— ANNIE SPRINKLE, PORN STAR TURNED SEX EDUCATOR

 

Sex is natural. Sex is healthy. Your mind, body, and soul can link together to create untold sexual ecstasy and bliss. Yet, few of us live an ecstatic life.

We all have the potential to achieve these sexual heights, but often, there are psychological blocks in the way. If you have little interest in sex, react negatively to sexual experiences, or have trouble letting go during sex, this chapter is for you. Even if you have a full sex life, you may find that you have difficulty achieving orgasm or feel little
sensation when your G-spot is stimulated. If you fall into that category, this chapter is for you, too!

Inside each of us is a spontaneous, joyous, playful, childlike spirit who wants to be free to savor everything and love everyone. Your body is the vehicle of your soul, sexual pleasure is a divine gift, and ecstasy is your birthright.

We all naturally build up sexual energy, and it’s healthy to regularly exercise and release it. How wonderful that something so good for you is also great fun.

Just like breathing and eating, sex is meant to be a natural part of our lives. But somewhere along the way, most of us lose that easygoing balance.

How did we lose our basic nature of playfulness and sexual ecstasy? In western culture, we’re taught that our sexual energies are dangerous. We’re made to believe that we must contain our sexuality and keep it in check. We’re made to live unnaturally by social conditioning and moral codes that don’t serve our inherent make-up. All the do’s and don’ts of human society produce inner struggles against our basic desires. The next thing we know, our sexual energies are in a cage, and this contributes to the difficulties of enjoying G-spot play, orgasmic energy, and female ejaculation.

Growing up in our sexually immature and repressed society, none of us can avoid accumulating energetic sexual blocks. We’re lectured to, corrected, and made wrong for our instincts and natural proclivities.

At young and vulnerable ages, we wade into the scary arena of sexuality largely unprepared and uneducated. In other words … ignorant.

We’re peppered with learning taboos, injunctions, and the multifarious definitions of the sins of the flesh. Often, it’s religious imprinting that creates these huge inhibitions and enormous loads of guilt and shame.

Women and men who’ve been sexually exploited, abused, and wounded may carry even more baggage. This negative energy is held in the G-spot. For too many, carrying this baggage gets in the way of enjoyment, orgasm, and ejaculation.

Do you want to become sexually whole? Do you hope to experience more and more sexual pleasure? Do you look forward to higher and higher peaks of sexual ecstasy?

To fully open to the joys of sexuality requires a clearing of negative programming. We all have varying degrees of sexual negativity to clear, but trust us — it can be done!

So, how do you shed the social conventions that bring you down? How do you release the guilt that keeps you boxed in? How do you heal old wounds? Healing and letting go into the pleasures of sex are what this chapter are all about. It’s the precursor to achieving ejaculation. If you have any blocks that prevent you from experiencing this “letting go” from your G-spot, the work you do as a result of this chapter will help you reach your goal and much more.

When we relax, exercise our erogenous zones, and enjoy our bodies, we often run into the old baggage that blocks excitement and pleasure.

We’ve all been through one or another of these scenarios: