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VAGINAL HEALING GUIDELINES

“Sexual healing … can happen through pleasure and delight much more easily than they can through ‘working’ on a problem.”

—
MARGOT ANAND,
THE ART OF SEXUAL ECSTASY

PARTNERS ARE ESSENTIAL DURING HEALING

Sexual healing through vaginal massage may need to be repeated a number of times to remove the layers of distress. The faster you go, the more painful it may be. So, there’s no rush. Cleanse the vagina a little at a time, and soon, you’ll arrive where you’ve always wanted to be.

G-spot healing requires a dedicated team effort between giver and receiver functioning as equals. You both have a vital role in the process.

You are likely to run into problems or conflict if one of you takes full control while the other remains passive. The woman in the receiving role must take responsibility for guiding the giver for optimum progress. The giver needs to respond to the woman’s guidance. You need to work together proactively to create a circle of energy that’s stronger than either one of you could produce alone.

To ensure that you’re acting as partners pulling together, we recommend that you only conduct the practice described below as an intentional healing session, not as a knee jerk reaction to resistance or purely for pleasure.

Communication between giver and receiver is essential. If something is troubling either of you, bring it up. If either of you gets an idea or
becomes concerned about anything, mention it immediately. Remember that you’re both doing the best you can at each moment. Operate from a place of love, respect, and appreciation for yourself and each other. Sexual healing comes through surrender more than anything else. It takes courage, trust, and mutual support.

GUIDELINES FOR BOTH GIVER AND RECEIVER

Stay as present as you can, tune into each other, and connect your energies. This is more important than technique.

Always stay relaxed. If you become anxious, simply breathe until you calm down.

You can’t get it wrong. Whatever you do from a place of love will move things forward.

Don’t try to be perfect. Approach this practice as playful children exploring a new game.

Focus more on the process than any immediate outcome. Release expectations that create performance pressure.

Remember that the way out is the way through. The process that turned on discomfort, emotion, or pain from old memories is what will turn it off.

You don’t have to do everything at once. Start slowly, and learn as you go.

If you need to do so, come back to the process again and again. Discharge as much old energy as the receiver can stand each time.

If the receiver feels as if she can’t go any further at any point, don’t push her. Let her choose to move forward or take a break.

Agree on a signal word or motion that will cause you both to immediately terminate whatever you’re doing. Perhaps the word “stop!” or palms facing the giver will work.