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Authors: Somraj Pokras
Do whatever you can to make the receiver feel secure, which includes maintaining strict confidentiality about what happens.
Make a strong emotional connection with your partner without penis involvement. The penis can act as a powerful re-stimulator of old resistance forcing the process to accelerate more quickly than the receiver can comfortably handle.
Get permission before making any major changes. Don’t penetrate the vagina or move dramatically without alerting her and receiving her okay.
Be supportive, encouraging, and show her how much you care. Reassure her with statements like “You’re doing great,” “I’m right here for you,” or “Take as long as you need.”
Healing is not deliberately designed to sexually arouse the receiver, but it sometimes happens. If so, gently steer the process back to healing without changing your focus to lovemaking.
Continually check in with yes/no questions to stay in close communication with the receiver.
Make sureyou
are always as comfortable as possible by alerting the receiver and shifting your position if needed. If you become tired or tense, it may distract your partner.
If the going gets tough, don’t run away. Honor your receiver’s stated boundaries, and respect any spontaneous limitations that crop up.
Before you begin, bathe, clean your hands, and cut your nails. If you have sores or rough spots, wear latex gloves.
Resolve outside pressures, and empty your bladder before you begin in order to be fully present.Resistance may take the form of strong emotions directed at the giver. It’s possible the receiver may direct frustration, criticism, blame, or anger at you and what you’re doing.
If it happens, resist the urge to defend yourself. Recognize that the receiver’s mind is somewhere else. It isn’t your current beloved who’s attacking you, but someone else from long ago. She’s acting out of powerful forces buried deep inside as a result of traumatic incidents. Energy imprints can actually control behavior when they resurface.
To the best of your ability, follow the QTIP guideline: Quit Taking It Personally.
Giver, here are a few suggestions that can help you stay present and not get triggered yourself into negativity:
Excuse the receiver if she temporarily forgets to lovingly ask for what she wants or forgets to appreciate what you’re offering her.
Just accept whatever the receiver says without taking it inside and judging her or you.
Release your partner’s energy using the four cornerstones of supreme bliss, and visualize the energy streaming through your body into the ground.
If you can’t maintain your composure, gently ask for a break. If you have to interrupt the process, she probably hasn’t released all of the old energy. You’ll need more patience, and she’ll need more healing in the future. But it’s better to try again later than it is to create a rift between you now.
Excuse the receiver if she temporarily forgets to lovingly ask for what she wants or forgets to appreciate what you’re offering her.Just accept whatever the receiver says without taking it inside and judging her or you.Release your partner’s energy using the four cornerstones of supreme bliss, and visualize the energy streaming through your body into the ground.If you can’t maintain your composure, gently ask for a break. If you have to interrupt the process, she probably hasn’t released all of the old energy. You’ll need more patience, and she’ll need more healing in the future. But it’s better to try again later than it is to create a rift between you now.Other books
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