Female Ejaculation (28 page)

By using the healing methods that follow, you can experience:

Instead of focusing on problems, you can heal through the committed pursuit of pleasure. As you learn to open your energy channels, it’s natural to bump into and work through any resistance that gets in the way.

When you have a problem, psychologists say you have two basic alternatives: flight or fight. If you deny the problem, try to run away, or put your head in the sand, nothing changes until it bites you. Avoiding old memories that continue to torment you adds strength to your resistance by letting the negative energy fester. If you choose to do battle with your demons, at least you’re actively aware of the issues.

The shortcoming of this two-sided view is that regardless of your choice, you’re being controlled by the problem. Running toward or away from a problem causes your mind to focus on it. This, of course, gives the problem more strength.

If you keep pushing yourself to experience pleasure, the healing properties of your life force energy flow will dissolve your blocks, discomforts, and resistances. Whatever helps to make your orgasmic energy flow is the very thing that will burn away the impeding blockages and allow you to experience new heights of pleasure and ecstasy.

In other words, make love, and heal thyself. Wouldn’t you rather heal through pleasure than regurgitating old hurts?

You move through your resistances by removing negative imprints and replacing them with pleasurable ones. By pursuing pleasure and opening to receive it, you clear emotional blocks and release stored energy.

It’s as if the weight of resistance is lifted from your pleasure balloon, allowing it to expand more easily. Once cleared, your sensuality reawakens, and you feel a powerful resurgence of aliveness, vibrancy, desire, spontaneity, playfulness, creativity, and joy. You’ll regain the potential for quick and easy orgasm or, when you choose, for continued building of passion to reach for ejaculation.

Pursuing pleasure in a healthy loving relationship is a healing path open to us all. Sometimes, when you’re making love with yourself or another, old emotions and images surface. Pleasure can trigger stored pain and anger that is years or decades old. Releasing tension is a good thing, though it may be awkward, uncomfortable, or even painful at the time. If this happens to you, we recommend that you continue lovemaking with as much awareness and communication as you can muster. Then, recognize you need to schedule some dedicated healing sessions as soon as possible.

By carefully studying the instructions in the practices that follow, you can help each other release body armoring and sexual resistance.

Some might say only trained professionals should attempt this kind of G-spot healing massage. We believe that through love and awareness, whatever you do will help. You may release some energy that makes you uncomfortable for a short time, but our philosophy is that it’s better to trigger this energy sooner rather than later.

When old negative energies are released through sexual healing, the pursuit of pleasure rapidly accelerates. But sometimes, resistance is so strongly embedded that beginning is impossible or traumatic.

If either the giver or receiver is unwilling to enter into vagina healing, or you find the process hopelessly stuck, professional therapy may be helpful. This is especially true for those with traumatic histories.

With graduate degrees and years of private practice in psychology and personal growth, we’d be the first to admit that in some cases, do-it-yourself healing doesn’t work. Sometimes, the scars of sexual wounding, trauma, and abuse run so deep that eroding them gradually isn’t practical or enjoyable. So, if you feel that help is needed, be gentle with yourself, and seek out a professional.