Authors: Somraj Pokras

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GUIDELINES FOR THE GIVER

Giver, here is your job description. We don’t refer to this role as “healer” because the receiver actually heals herself. But you do have a vital function to perform that can assist her in letting go of resistance.

If you choose to help your beloved heal sexual resistance, be sure you decide to accept the role of giver freely, willingly, and for sincere reasons. Don’t expect anything in return right away, or ever for that matter.

Offer your heart in total service to her. This is a privilege that you’re entrusted with, and it’s the height of intimacy. Accept this role from a purely loving space because you want to give, not because you need to gratify your ego or satisfy yourself sexually.

Here are some guidelines specifically for givers:

Let go of your own needs. Follow the receiver’s energy, not your own urges. Let her indications of readiness be your guide to begin, continue, and shift.

Be fully present, hold the space, and share this rare transformation with your beloved. Remember that your selfless loving presence is your most precious contribution.

Do everything possible to create a safe environment. The receiver must feel in control at all times.

Be gentle, and always use tender loving care.

Approach the vagina with reverence, respect, and a sense of awe. Remember that you’re being given a sacred trust.

Keep the process going, and support the receiver as long as she’s willing and able.

Facilitate the healing process by doing whatever you can to make her clearing work as easy and painless as possible.

Act as a neutral sounding board for whatever the receiver needs to say. Acknowledge her feelings, and express understanding and empathy.

If strong emotional reactions surface, realize you’re not the real target. Just breathe, relax, and let them pass.

Remember that you don’t have to fix the receiver. Her consciousness does that, so just remain present through her process.

Don’t feel guilty for producing discomfort through vaginal massage. Stored negative energy is what creates that.

Don’t be scared. Giving isn’t hard to do if you simply have the desire to help and follow the directions below. If you can’t get over the initial natural nervousness, we urge you to see a therapist for assistance before proceeding.