The Dream Sharing Sourcebook: A Practical Guide to Enhancing Your Personal Relationships (17 page)

Read The Dream Sharing Sourcebook: A Practical Guide to Enhancing Your Personal Relationships Online

Authors: Phyllis R. Koch-Sheras

Tags: #test

BOOK: The Dream Sharing Sourcebook: A Practical Guide to Enhancing Your Personal Relationships
3.06Mb size Format: txt, pdf, ePub
We are united.
We are powerful and united.
We are the source.
We are bonded.
We are the source of our power and creativity.
We are, the two of us infinitely together, the source of support, power, and creativity.
The proclamation we finally came up withand the one that generated the most excitement for usis "We are the source of infinite support, power, and creativity." We had wanted a vision that allowed us to think "big" and would empower us individually as well as together. We could feel that we had hit on something when we came up with the word
infinite
. It's not a usual word in our vocabulary. We decided on the order of the words when we realized that
support
felt like the basis of the rest of what we were doing. Once we got the words, we practiced repeating them out loud for each other and our coaches until all of us could feel the energy and excitement in them. We started out saying the proclamation once every day, then twice a day and, sometimes, up to four times a day or more, as we needed extra "juice" to keep us going. It worked whether we were together, talking on the phone with each other,
 
Page 93
or just saying it to ourselves. This book is one of the products of its power.
Repetition and practice: What keeps a dream couple relationship alive is not the fact that the couple proclamation was made but that it continues to be made. Regularly speaking the vision, as in the example above, creates an ongoing life force or power for the couple, similar to a credo to live by. Like a mantra, a phrase or word repeated in meditation, the wording of the proclamation needs to be brief so that it is easy to remember and repeat. You could say something like "We are powerful" rather than "We are a powerful couple who can accomplish everything we set out to do in our personal and working lives." Use your proclamation as a daily affirmation and repeat it in unison at least once a day. You may want to say it to each other at various times during the day, or you can leave it on the answering machine or voice mail at home or at the office. We repeated our proclamation on several different occasions, even calling each other during the day to say it. You will immediately notice, as we did, the difference it makes for both of you each time you say it.
The Act of Commitment
Creating visioning dreams and proclamations is a way to accomplish the act of commitmentthe initial and perhaps most crucial variable in sustaining a couple relationship. Many couples, even those who have been together a long time, have never established a true base of commitment. The two partners in a relationship must be able to declare their dedication to one another, mean it, and trust it. If they are still testing the relationship or "voting" on each other's behaviors, looks, or values, they are in trouble. Engaging in a relationship without a

Other books

Everything Was Good-Bye by Gurjinder Basran
Emergency Echo by George Ivanoff
Marionette by T. B. Markinson
Hephaestus and the Island of Terror by Joan Holub, Suzanne Williams
Buffalo Jump Blues by Keith McCafferty
Marque and Reprisal by Elizabeth Moon