without even knowing it. Whenever you think about a particular issue just before going to bed, you are likely to set a spontaneous dream incubation process in motion, with your dreaming mind working on the issue in your dreams that night. You and your partner can easily make this natural tendency work for you both by concentrating on a few simple procedures.
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Think about it: Talk to your partner about the issue or problem before going to bed. Consciously focus on the thing you want to dream about. Ask each other questions about it: What goal do we want to achieve? What are the obstacles to reaching it? Now, come to some agreement about a concise statement or question that describes your concerns, and what you hope a dream will make clear to you. For us, in the situation above, it was ''What can we do to make this weekend more relaxing and enjoyable?"
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Write it down: Write the question or statement in your dream journals or on slips of paper and put it under your pillows. Then you can literally "sleep on it" and have it there to recall when you wake up. Before you go to sleep, take a few minutes to relax and focus on your breathing. Then think about your issue. Use your question or summary statement as a meditation, repeating it to yourself over and over as you go to sleep. The more completely you can lose yourself in this meditation, shutting out all other thoughts, the more likely you are to have the dream you want.
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Take whatever you get: As you can tell from our incubated dreams above, the significance of the dreams to your issue may not be immediately obvious. If you look at them from the perspective of what you had asked for, however, some message may come up. Brainstorm together to see what dream messages you can decipher. If nothing comes to you, try again the next night. Successful dream incubation often takes practice, and
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