I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide (42 page)

index

A

about-
face.org
,
81

abstinence,
252–53
,
261

AFE-zone (anterior fornix erogenous zone),
164–65

alcohol abuse,
82–83

alcohol and intercourse,
145
,
212

Allies in Healing
(Davis),
40

Allison, Sadie,
62
,
75

American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists,
89

American Medical Association,
49

American Pie
(movie),
99

Anal-Ease, warning about,
248

Anal Pleasure and Health
(Morin),
249

anal sex

CDC survey on,
241–42

experimental exploration of,
74

level of interest in,
241
,
242–43

lubrication for,
181
,
246–47

tips for enjoying,
244–49

with toys,
181
,
243
,
246

women’s interest in,
243–44

animal kingdom,
50
,
226

anterior fornix erogenous zone (AFE-zone),
164–65

antidepressant medications,
83–85

antigay violence,
229

arousal

for first intercourse,
146–47

Masters and Johnson’s on,
18–21

for orgasms during intercourse,
131

phases of,
20
,
21
,
79

signs of,
216

techniques for boosting,
76–79

A-spot,
164–65

Association of Professional Piercers,
187

B

Bass, Ellen,
39

battery-operated vibrators,
170
,
171

BDSM (bondage, discipline/domination, and sadomasochism),
182–83

Becoming Orgasmic
(Heiman and Lopiccolo),
89

bedroom boredom versus Spicing It Up game,
189–92

benzocaine,
248

Bible on masturbation,
48

Big Big Love
(Blank),
81

Big Book of Masturbation, The
(Cornog),
62

Biological Exuberance,
129
,
226

birth control

doubling up on methods,
270

emergency contraception,
260

for first time intercourse,
146

reference chart on,
252–59

staying informed about,
251

birth control pills,
83
,
256–57

bisexual, defining,
225

Blank, Hanne,
81

Blank, Joani,
72

blended fantasies,
33

bodily fluids and STIs,
261–62

body image issues,
80–82
,
88–89
,
96–98

Body Image Workbook, The
(Cash),
81

bondage, discipline/domination, and sadomasochism (BDSM),
182–83

boys,
4
,
5
,
43–45
,
51–53

brainstorming sex play options,
189–92

breast cancer, early discovery of,
2–4

Brinkley, David,
52

Brown University,
4–5
,
6–7

buildup to orgasm,
23
,
26
,
55–56
,
173
,
199

butt plugs,
181
,
243

butt sex.
See
anal sex

C

Cash, Thomas,
81

Castleman, Michael,
212

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention,
241–42

cervix,
117

childhood, learning about masturbation during,
4
,
5
,
43–45
,
51–53

chlamydia,
261–62

circulatory conditions affecting orgasm,
82–83

cleaning sex toys,
183

Clinton, Bill,
95

clitoris

coital alignment position and,
120–21
,
131

glans and shaft of,
70
,
72

great lovers and,
200–201

humming over,
111

overview,
16–18

piercing the,
184–85

sensitivity of,
22–23
,
25

size of clitoris and intensity of orgasm,
18

stimulating during intercourse,
126–27
,
141

tips for partners,
34–38

vibrators and,
173

cock rings,
183

coital alignment technique,
120–21
,
131

coming, female orgasm as,
15

communication

on clitoral sensitivity,
23

on faking orgasm,
219–21

during oral sex,
104
,
106–9
,
110

on oral sex,
98–99
,
114

overview,
36–37

saying no,
98

sighs and moans as,
204

on STIs and HIV,
269

on what feels good,
24
,
34–35
,
140
,
198–200

with women who fail to orgasm,
218–19

See also
troubleshooting

condoms

for anal sex,
247

for birth control,
252–53

female condoms,
252–53
,
266–67

guide to,
263–66

latex condoms and oil-based lubricants,
135
,
136
,
264–65

making dental dams from,
268

practicing masturbation with,
142

on vegetable sex toys,
180

Consumer Reports,
265

Cornog, Martha,
62

Courage to Heal
(Bass and Davis),
39

cowgirl position,
117–18

crabs,
261–62

crisscross position,
119–20

cunnilingus.
See
oral sex on women

D

Davis, Laura,
39
,
40

Dear Abby,
4

delivery boy mentality,
212

dental dams,
95–96
,
135
,
245
,
261–62
,
267–68

diaphragms,
254–55

Diddling for Donations fundraiser,
58

dildos,
176
,
178–79
,
227

directness of clitoral touching,
35

disorders of sex development (DSD),
237–40

Dodson, Betty,
26
,
62
,
65

doggie style,
116
,
117–18
,
141

dreams, having orgasms during,
37

DSD (disorders of sex development),
237–40

Durex Global Sex Survey,
175
,
242

E

EC (emergency contraception),
260

ED (erectile dysfunction),
207–8

ejaculation, female,
150–51
,
157–63

Elders, Joycelyn,
52

Elusive Orgasm, The
(Cass),
89

emergency contraception (EC),
260

endorphins,
16

Ensler, Eve,
18

erectile dysfunction (ED),
207–8

erections.
See
penis

erogenous zones,
24

erotica, utilizing,
30–31
,
77

erotica from ancient cultures,
92

excitement phase of arousal,
20
,
21

exercise, orgasms from,
61–62
.
See also
Kegel exercises

F

fake orgasms,
216–22

fantasizing,
29–34
,
76–77
,
133
,
182–83

fasting blood sugar test,
84

fear of antigay violence,
229

fear of oral sex,
96–98

fear of orgasm,
79

female, defining,
9

female condoms,
252–53
,
266–67

female ejaculation,
150–51
,
157–63

Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot
(Sundahl),
161

female genital mutilation,
67
,
238–39

female orgasm lecture program development,
7–8

female to male (FTM) transpeople,
236–37

Femalia
(Blank),
72
,
98

fertility awareness method for birth control,
256–57

fingering

anal,
246–47

G-spot and,
156–57

during lesbian sex,
116
,
227
,
230

during oral sex,
112

as preparation for first intercourse,
146

fingernails and fingering (ouch),
34
,
230

Five Steps to Your First Orgasm

Step 1: start alone,
68–69

Step 2: befriend your vulva,
69–72

Step 3: touch yourself experimentally,
72–74

Step 4: touch yourself regularly,
74–75

Step 5: experiment with arousal boosters,
76–79

fluid-bonded partnerships,
262

food play,
111

foreplay,
109
,
139
,
197–98
,
199

40 Days and 40 Nights
(film),
25

Freud, Sigmund,
134

FTM (female to male) transpeople,
236–37

G

gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender (GLBT) issues,
224
,
229

gay men,
9
,
224
,
229

gender identity

intersex community,
225
,
237–40

overview,
9
,
224

transgender community,
225
,
234–37

genderqueer community,
9
,
225
,
236

genitals

befriending your,
69–72

female genital mutilation,
67
,
238–39