I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide (44 page)

faking dos and don’ts,
218–22

fantasies during,
33–34

fingering your partner,
156–57

first-time orgasms in,
85–89

fluid-bonded partnerships,
262

G-spot and,
155

lesbian sex,
233–34

masturbation and,
23
,
36
,
46
,
59
,
201

with sex toys,
174–76
,
187–88

Spicing It Up game,
189–92

tips for clitoral stimulation,
34–38

with trans or intersex people,
239

patch for birth control,
258–59

patience, value of,
201–2
,
218

PC (pubococcygeus) muscle group,
26–29
,
76
,
85
,
134
,
211

penetration

experimenting with,
140

during lesbian sex,
116
,
227
,
231

See also
anal sex
;
intercourse

penis

as one tool of many,
201

potential problems with,
204–7

size of,
133
,
214–15

troubleshooting guide,
207–13

vagina equated to,
18

PEP (post-exposure prophylaxis),
271

performance anxiety, male,
8

perineum,
72

Perry, John,
154

Petals
(Karras),
72

phone sex,
33–34

physical aspects of female orgasm

arousal and,
20
,
21

G-spot,
152–54
,
155

intercourse position and,
116

muscle contractions,
14

sensitivity to pain decreases,
16

vaginal lubrication,
22
,
23
,
35

physical causes for erectile dysfunction,
208

physical disabilities and body image,
80

piercings,
184–87

pituitary function test,
84

Planned Parenthood,
97

planning for first time sex,
144

planning for safer sex,
271

plastic wrap

for oral sex,
95–96
,
135
,
245
,
261–62
,
267–68

for sex toys,
180

plateau phase of arousal,
20
,
21
,
79

Pleasantville
(movie),
49

polyurethane condoms,
264

pornography

anal sex in,
247–48

boys/men learning about sex from,
193–95

concepts of sex from,
71

female ejaculation on,
157

as spoiler to open sexuality,
168

taking a break from,
196

waiting for erections before filming,
204

positions

experimenting with,
122–23

for intercourse,
116–23
,
128
,
132
,
141
,
249

for oral sex,
100–103

post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP),
271

pregnancy

from anal sex,
247

body’s desire for,
137

fear of,
82

intercourse during,
142

preventing,
250–51

sexual desire during,
26

See also
birth control

premature ejaculation,
209–11

pre-orgasmic women,
67

Presidential Physical Fitness Program,
60

pressure of clitoral touching,
35

pressure of vibrators,
173

prolactin level test,
84

prostaglandins,
142

Q

Queendom.com
,
80

queer, defining,
224

R

rape, effect of,
38–40
,
79
,
203

rape scenarios,
31–32
,
33

religion and masturbation,
48

resolution phase after orgasm,
20
,
21

reverse cowgirl position,
117–18

rimming,
245

ring birth control,
256–57

S

sadomasochism,
182–83

safepiercing.org
,
187

safer sex secrets,
269–72

safewords,
182

Sears, Roebuck and Company,
168

Seifer, Judith,
84

self-consciousness about oral sex,
92–94
,
96–97

self-touch

advantages of,
2–4
,
68–69

experimental,
72–74

See also
masturbation

semen as labor inducer,
142

sensations felt by women

alcohol abuse versus,
82–83

experimental exploration of,
73–74

medications versus,
83–85

during orgasm,
14–15

sense of human, importance of,
149

sequential orgasm approach,
105–6
,
137

sex

expectations,
97–98
,
145

orgasms as one aspect of,
11–12
,
217–18

peeing after,
128

Sex and the City
(TV series),
170

sex chromosomes,
237–38

sex education,
6
,
18–19
,
52

Sex for One
(Dodson),
62

sex reassignment surgery, effect of,
235

sex toys

for BDSM,
182–83

cleaning,
183

dildos,
176
,
178–79
,
227

for G-spot stimulation,
155

Harry Potter’s broom,
185

piercings,
184–87

silicone lube and,
136

Spicing It Up game,
189–92

vegetables,
180

See also
vibrators

sexual abuse or assault, effect of,
38–40
,
79
,
203

sexual desire versus sexual fantasy,
32

Sexual Healing Journey, The
(Maltz),
39

Sexually Transmitted Diseases
(journal),
263

sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

asking about,
269

concerns about,
82

from lesbian sex,
231
,
233

methods for transmittal,
260–61

recognizing,
271–72

transmission prevention,
261–62
,
267–68

treatment for,
272

vaginal odor or discharge and,
97

sexual violence, ending,
40

shaft of the clitoris,
72

Sharkey, Lorelei,
104

“the shocker,”
246

shots for birth control,
258–59

showering before sex,
94
,
197

side effects of hormonal birth control,
258–59

silicone-based lubricants,
135
,
136

Silverberg, Cory,
81

simultaneous orgasms,
136–39

69 position,
104–6

skin-to-skin contact and STIs,
261–62

social conditioning,
42–43
,
46–51
,
92–93
,
203
,
229

Solot, Dorian,
2–5
,
10

speed of clitoral touching,
35

speed of thrusts,
140

speed of vibrators,
172

spermicides,
254–57

Spicing It Up game,
189–92

spinal cord injuries,
67

sponge, spermicidal,
254–55

spooning,
121

squiggle pens,
172

STIs.
See
sexually transmitted infections

Stuart, Gloria,
61

Sundahl, Deborah,
161

survey responses

on anal sex,
241–42

on body image,
80

on favorite position for intercourse,
118

on G-spot,
153

on heterosexual females’ experiences with other women,
225

on oral sex,
104
,
109–14

on vibrator use,
175

on women’s fantasies,
29–30

on women’s orgasms,
65

surveys, authors’,
10–11
,
64–65

Survivor’s Guide to Sex, The
(Haines),
39
,
79

syphilis,
261–62

T

tabletop sex,
120

Taking Charge of Your Fertility
(Weschler),
137

tantric sex,
138

Taormino, Tristan,
249

Taylor, Emma,
104

Technology of Orgasm, The
(Mains),
167

Tickle Your Fancy
(Allison),
62
,
75

Top Ten Reason to Have an Orgasm,
13

transgender community,
9
,
225
,
234–37
,
239

transwomen,
235

trichomoniasis,
261–62

troubleshooting

belief about responsibility for orgasm,
82

clitoral sensitivity,
22–23
,
25

fear of consequences of sex,
82

fear of orgasm,
79

medical conditions and treatments,
82–85

negative body image,
80–82
,
88–89
,
96–98

See also
communication

TV sex,
115

Twelve Steps to Making Your First Time a Great Time,
143–49

U

Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
(Taormino),
249

Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability
(Silverberg, Kaufman, and Odette),
81

unique nature of orgasms,
14–15